31 for 41: The Little Girl in a Tree

Dear Donovan, When I was a little girl, something bad happened.  I won’t write the details in a letter, but it was a sexual assault.  There are images and words that I can never forget.  There were bad days, but one day in particular was the worst. For so many years, I would not even thinkContinue reading “31 for 41: The Little Girl in a Tree”

31 for 41: Let it go

Dear Donovan, When I was in third grade, I received my first academic award.  It was actually an award for a regional writing contest, and I wrote about pollution in a creek.  I received both a trophy and the praise of people that I loved.  More awards came later, and I began to define myContinue reading “31 for 41: Let it go”

31 for 41: Talents and Trophies

Dear Donovan, When you were in preschool, I came to pick you up one day and a teacher met me at the door.  “I need to tell you about something that Donovan is doing.”  That statement often means that the child is in trouble, so I braced myself to hear what had happened. “Donovan canContinue reading “31 for 41: Talents and Trophies”

31 for 41: About Domestic Violence

Dear Donovan, Their stories are still with me. A college student I meet in court does not want to testify after her boyfriend attacked her.  He also held her dog over the balcony of their apartment and threatened to drop him, all after she discovered he was cheating on her. A mom in my supportContinue reading “31 for 41: About Domestic Violence”

31 for 41: When Bad Things Happen

Dear Donovan, This will not be a very long letter, because answering the question “Why do bad things happen?” can be a complex task.  Ask anyone who has studied the book of Job, or anyone who has suffered loss.  I am not qualified to answer this question in one letter.  You will have to wrestleContinue reading “31 for 41: When Bad Things Happen”

31 for 41: Work and Welfare

Dear Donovan, The picture attached to today’s letter is the day at the Copperheads baseball game when you collected enough foul balls to trade them for a cracked wooden bat.  I remember someone jokingly asking me if they could take you with them to buy lottery tickets, as you were seemingly having a very luckyContinue reading “31 for 41: Work and Welfare”

31 for 41: Buy her coffee

Dear Donovan, I am writing this short letter late tonight because Brandon and I had a date today.  You know that he and I still try to schedule dates into our busy family schedule.  We believe it is important for us to take time away from everyone else, just two best friends on adventures.  WeContinue reading “31 for 41: Buy her coffee”

31 for 41: Sound the Alarm

Dear Donovan, I want everyone to like me.  It’s a part of who I am.  In college, I set out to accomplish goals but never wanted to make anyone mad.  Then a friend told me, “If you never make anyone mad, you will never get anything done.”  I thought maybe I could be the exceptionContinue reading “31 for 41: Sound the Alarm”